Heyy, how are you?
Before we dive into today’s blog, I want us to take a moment and breathe…
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Okay, now that we’re a little more into our bodies, let’s dive into today’s conversation.
Do you like you, like really like you?
If you have to spend the rest of your life with people who reflect the different facets of you, would your soul feel satiated?
What are the conditions in which you love and like yourself?
I want you to ponder on those questions above, write them down in your journal for later.
And if you’re reading this and you don’t have a journal, not an electronic journal, I mean a paper journal that you have to write on, if you have the ability to write,
I highly recommend that you get a journal and pen or pencil. I’m a pencil girl, I love me a good HB pencil and a little eraser.
Anyway, today we’re talking about why you don’t love yourself, and who’s the culprit to blame.
All roads lead to Rome, right, so thanks to colonialism, you were socialized with fear and hatred at the foundation of your perception.
You were raised with an illusionary view of humanity and humankind. For some of you humane correlates with the colour of your skin.
In case no one has ever told you before, there should never be any condition in which you don’t love who you are.
The relationship that you have with yourself is the baseline of any external relationship.
When I talk about liking and loving yourself, I am not talking about the spa days or the glitter and glamour.
I’m referring to how you show up for yourself every day, how you tend to your spirit, mind, and, body.
What do you feed yourself?
Is your diet high in stress and self-pity?
Are you still shrinking into that victim’s cloak from high school?
Who and what takes top priority in your life?
The position which you assume in your life dictates the position that you assume in the world.
The world reflects what you radiate into it, if you’re always hostile with you, you will perceive your world as hostile.
This world is already cruel and inhumane enough, the least you can do for yourself is; love who you are.
Loving yourselves requires doing the things for you that you know you need, the medicine that your inner child is bleeding for.
Therapy, I want you to pause for a moment and reflect on the feeling and sensation you felt when you read the first word in this sentence.
I’ll repeat it for you: “Therapy”.
Therapy is one of those words that activates us, it elicits an emotional response that varies for every person.
It is also steeped with dogma and colonial seasoning, which, for some of us, the weight the word holds is valid.
Nevertheless, this word is the secret sauce to our healing and liberation.
Now, before you say that it’s what everyone says, duh, we all need therapy.
I want to elaborate, not everyone needs to lie on a couch and talk to someone, there are so, so many different forms of therapy.
Most of which the everyday individual has no idea or access to.
I mean, we live in a society that makes no acknowledgement of our spiritual needs but exploits its essence.
I personally believe that a lot of adults would benefit from weekly play therapy, especially Black women (Sis, I feel you).
Play is such a vital nutrient to our soul’s diet.
There’s a large majority of adults who are very malnourished; heck,
there are children across the globe where play is barely palatable in their environment.
We have fucked our planet up so much that our basic human needs are perceived as luxuries and reserved for a select few.
The Earth has been screaming bloody mercy for years, yet they continue to rape her.
Okay, let’s bring it back to self-love. The reason you hate yourself is because, we live in a greedy capitalist soceity who profits off of your fear and hatred.
The only way out of this hell is for each of us to start at home; we begin by loving ourselves.
You start small, each day you choose to love yourself 5% more and work your way up.
There will be days when that might be too much, and then there will be days when you love 50% more.
Your foundation may take a while to build, you might have to destroy the old structure before you can build anything, and that’s okay.
Loving yourself is work, but it’s work we all come into this world with the means and capacity to do.
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